I have a friend, a very close friend, more than a friend really, someone who has helped me through what was probably the most difficult emotional part of my life. Even really good friends, however, sometimes lose control and awareness of their emotions. She had a rough day and became overwhelmed by some things happening in her life, and she projected those anxieties onto our relationship. That was the inspiration for today’s thought.
Thought of the Day
It is important to be aware of what you are feeling and why you are feeling it. The why is perhaps the most important part because you cannot affect the feelings without understanding from whence they arise. Before I developed a mastery of frame control and the self awareness I now have, I would often take out my emotions on the people close to me. This is never a good way to go about things. We all have bad days, and we all have days which make us hate the world. The problem, however, occurs when we unleash that hatred on those things which do not cause it to arise. This leads to destroying valuable relationships, becoming isolated, and just generally being happy. The main way to mitigate this is to be aware. Have the courage to take a step back and look at what happened to make you feel the way you are currently feeling. See if you can identify emotional patterns that occur in your life. Learn some NLP to identify subconscious triggers you may not even know existed.
Managing my emotional state while still living in it fully is a tricky balance I am still working to perfect. The ability to limit myself from taking out my negative emotions on those who do not deserve it, however, has been instrumental for me in developing and maintaining healthy, dynamic, and fruitful relationships. For you readers, take a shot at trying to understand your emotional self. You may be surprised at what you discover.