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AMOGing – How to Disarm the Douche
The beautiful thing about getting girls, other than the girls themselves, is that most any guy can do it. Many men have found themselves in that situation when they are faced with the AMOG (alpha male of the group). This will likely happen to you if/when you enter a social situation where you don’t know many people, such as if you are invited to an event party by a friend or you open a set of men and women in a club. You always want to be the alpha male, but it is naive to think that women are just waiting for you to come around and do it. Rather, many women often have their eye on whom they perceive to be an alpha male, and that male will feel threatened when you enter the set. Not to mention, he is probably a football player or something, much bigger than you, and a douche. He wears the tight polo shirt with the carge/plaid shorts, and you can smell the Axe radiating off him. Nevertheless, he always gets laid because he’s hot, and women sense that he will pound them into next week. Generally, people learning how to pick up women cannot physically compete with such a man. So, how are we to become the AMOG in such a situation? In this post, I give you some tips on how to maintain control of the situation and not let the AMOG get to you.
1. Do Not Engage on his Level - If you have read my other posts, you know that one of the keys to picking up a woman is to demonstrate higher value. If the AMOG starts calling you names, pushing you out of the way, being crass, etc…, and you start doing the same, you will just be the same douche, and chances are that you will not win at that game. As such, use your wit and charm to show that you are far higher value than that neanderthal. You may be wondering how to do that. Well, continue reading to find out!
2. The Cute and/or Adorable - Often times, the AMOG will have something in their bio which can be played off as kind of cute. The best of these is their name. If he is named Bobby, or Dewey, or Junior, or something like that, you can immediately take control of the momentum in the social situation, and you can do it immediately at the onset of the introduction.
You: Hey, I’m …. (reach out for a handshake)
AMOG: What’s up? Mikey
You: Aw, Mikey, I like that, that’s adorable. It suits you, what with the curly hair and everything 
3. The Agreement Dismissal - Often, when the AMOG feels that his place is being threatened, he will try to make fun of you, often trying to paint you out as weak of feminine. The easiest way, and the one I recommend you use most if just starting out, is to agree and dismiss his insult. Do not look away from your set or target, and do not provide him with any meaningful acknowledgment. Just brush him off.
Ex. 1
AMOG: Dude, that shirt is really gay.
You: Oh, ok, I’ll keep that in mind. Anyway… (continue your conversation)
Ex. 2
AMOG: You’re a pussy man. I could beat the shit out of you.
You: Yeah, probably. Anyway… (continue your conversation)
4. The “You Know How I Know You’re Gay?” - If you start to take control of the conversation and the resulting status that comes along with that, then the AMOG may try to show higher value by correcting you in the conversation. Certain topics on which he may try to do this present an opportunity for you to take control.
Ex. 1
You: I don’t know, I think girls who wear too much makeup are trying too hard.
AMOG: No way! Mascara and stuff makes a girl look hot!
You: Dude, you know how I know you’re gay? You have exact mascara amount preferences.
Ex. 2 (I’ve actually used this)
You: So we got to this monastery, and the first thing I noticed was that all the monks were like half naked. They were just wearing these robes around there legs, and we all walking around topless.
AMOG: That would be awesome, comfortable as hell.
You: You know how I know you’re gay? You totally have a naked monk fetish.
5. Tooling - This is an advanced technique, and it can sometimes get you into trouble, so be careful with it. Turn the AMOG into a tool. If you’re playing beer pong, ask him to get some beer for you. You can ask him to hold your pencil or something stupid. If you’re doing a card trick, ask him to hold the box the cards were in. Ask him to throw an empty cup away for you. The vast majority of the time, he will comply with your request without even thinking about it, at which point you have taken control.
Regardless of what techniques you use, keep a couple basic principles in mind. The first is dis-acknowledgment. Do not give the AMOG the attention he is desperately seeking. Just brush him off. The second is to always be playful and funny. DO NOT do anything of these things menacingly. That will totally mess things up for you. Finally, remember that the goal is to maintain social control so you can get the girl. Everything you do should be done with the target in mind.
Good luck!
